1939年，父亲和母亲相恋一年后结婚。母亲跟随父亲回到四川，小两口单住一年后，搬去跟我严厉的祖母和父亲的两个孩子一起生活。
那时候，我的母亲只有20岁，父亲的两个孩子，一个6岁，是我的大姐李开芸，一个4岁，是我的大哥李开宁，他们刚开始很排斥这个“后妈”，甚至拿东西扔她，但这个“后妈”对他们视若己出，他们后来也渐渐地爱上了母亲，一生都把她当亲生母亲看待。在那个物质匮乏的年代，母亲身心俱疲，拉扯他们十分不易。
父亲在大陆期间，和母亲生了二姐、三姐和四姐三个孩子，5个孩子让这个家庭变得闹哄哄的。
这一大家子人并不知道，等待他们的，竟是一场离散。
1949年初，解放战争即将结束，国民党政府已经风雨飘摇。从四川往台湾撤退时，父亲没有带走母亲，也没有带走一个至亲骨肉。母亲是一个通情达理的人，尽管她深知没有男人支撑的世界，很可能像河流上的孤舟一样绝望，像风雨中的残叶一样飘摇，更何况，这种骨肉分离的生活，根本不知道什么时候会是尽头，但母亲还是放父亲走了。她独自一人挑起生活的重担，不但要抚养5个孩子，还要照顾婆婆，不但要忍受对亲人的思念，还要承受各种外来的压力。
1950年初，坚强的母亲终于决定结束这种分离的生活，冒险带着5个孩子去台湾寻找父亲。通过各种途径，母亲辗转得到一张去广州的“路条”，也叫“通行证”。得到了通行证后，一家人就立即乘火车从成都到达重庆，经过一个星期的等待以后，才千辛万苦地从重庆到达广州。
据说，在去广州的路上，母亲带着5个孩子辗转奔波，一路上经常遇到检查。尤其是从广州到香港的路程中，非常艰辛，他们在香港生活的费用，只能依靠一小块金子。我哥哥把金子焊入手电筒中，希望不被发现。一次检查人员看到了母亲带在身上的手电筒，刚刚想要拆下来检查。在我妈妈怀里的四姐姐，当时也就一岁半，用稚嫩的四川话叫了一声“baibai(伯伯)”，还不断地微笑。检查的那个人愣了一下，俯下身去拍拍她的脸，摸摸她的头，就忘记去拆手电筒了。这一声“baibai”，可谓在危在旦夕之际挽救了我们全家。
这只是千山万水跋涉的一个插曲。全家到达广州以后，下一步便是坐船去香港。据说，当时很难找到愿意去香港的船只，更何况是对于拉扯5个孩子的母亲。因此，母亲在到达广州后，在广州滞留长达几个月，好不容易才到达香港。到了香港，她才打电话通知父亲，她即将带孩子们赴台，这是他们分居海峡两岸之后的第一次联系。
母亲坚忍不拔、永不服输的性格谱写了她平凡却动听的人生乐章。这种性格深深地交融在她的血液中，此后的每个关键时刻，要作各种选择时，这种坚忍就会起到决定性的作用。这也让我每每遇到困难时，总会抱着坚定的信念去放手一搏。因为我坚信，我的基因里有一种物质来源于我的母亲，它叫做“坚持”。
在台湾，我们的生活不算拮据，但由于孩子众多，也不算富裕。父亲在台湾任“立法院立法委员”，有一定的收入，但远远不够抚养成群的孩子。为了贴补家用，母亲从一个家庭妇女转变成职业妇女，在台湾金瓯女专当了11年体育教师。在我出生前，即使是母亲在1953年生了五姐以后，也依然一边工作，一边抚养6个孩子。
1961年，43岁的母亲意外怀孕了，这在我们的大家庭里掀起了不小的波澜。这个家已经有6个孩子了，分别是大姐李开芸、大哥李开宁、二姐李开蓉、三姐李开露、四姐李开菁以及五姐李开敏。
能否让这个生命降临？无论是医生还是家人，都劝说母亲放弃。对这个年纪的女人来说，分娩的过程与其说是生理上的一次煎熬，不如说是精神上的一场炼狱。而且按照医生的说法，如此高龄的产妇，生下痴呆儿的概率很大。
但是，执拗和冒险的天性这时候在母亲的身上再次表现出来。母亲只是咬住嘴唇，轻轻地说出了三个字——我要生。
1961年12月3日，一个婴儿呱呱坠地。这就是我。
母亲后来对我说，她当时就是有一种信念，觉得我会是个非常聪明健康的孩子，才不顾一切地将我生了下来。我现在觉得，相对于别的母亲给予孩子生命，我母亲孕育我的过程则拥有更多的未知和变数，对母亲身体的考验也更大，这个过程充满了生命的奇迹和坚韧的味道。
IN ENGLISH
At that time, my mother is only 20 years old, his father's two children, a 6-year-old is my older sister Lee Kai-yun, a 4-year-old is my older brother Lee Kai-Ning, who just began to feel marginalized in this "stepmother," and even throwing things get her, but this "stepmother" had ordained them out, they later gradually fell in love with his mother, and his biological mother regarded her as a treat. In that era of material scarcity, mothers spent physically and mentally, they are very difficult to pull.
During his father on the mainland, and the mother gave birth to a second sister, Si Jie San Jie, and three children, five children so that the family has become noisy.
The people who do not know the child, waiting for them, was actually a discrete.
Early 1949, the liberation war coming to an end, the KMT government has precarious. Retreat from Sichuan to Taiwan, my father did not take the mother, it did not take a loved one flesh and blood. Mother was a reasonable person, even though she knew did not support a man's world, it is likely the same as the lonely boat on the river of despair, like the wind and rain in the Canye like hovering What's more, this separated life, do not know when is the end, but the mother still let his father go. She lives alone stir up the burden of not only to raise five children, to take care of her mother, not only to endure the thoughts of their loved ones, but also to withstand all kinds of external pressure.
Early 1950, a strong mother finally decided to put an end to separation of living, adventure with five children to Taiwan in search of his father. Through various channels, the mother was removed to be Guangzhou's a go, "Lutiao", also known as "pass." Have been passes, a person who immediately arrived by train from Chengdu, Chongqing, after a week of waiting only after untold hardships to arrive in Guangzhou from Chongqing.
Reportedly, the way to Guangzhou, the mother was removed with five kids back and forth, checking frequently encountered along the way. In particular, the distance from Guangzhou to Hong Kong, very hard, their cost of living in Hong Kong can only rely on a small piece of gold. My brother put into the torch in the welding of gold, hope it will not be found. Time inspectors carry around a flashlight to see his mother, just want to be removed to check. In the arms of the four sister, my mother was also a half years old, with innocent Sichuan dialect shouted "baibai (Uncle)", he continually smiled. Check the person froze a moment, leaned over to pat her face, touch her head, they forget about dismantling the flashlight of. This soon as "baibai", can be described as the occasion at the verge of dying to save our family.
This is just an episode trek thousands of miles. After the family arrived in Guangzhou, the next step is to go to Hong Kong by boat. It is said that time is difficult to find someone willing to go to Hong Kong ships, let alone to pull the mother of five children. Therefore, the mother arrived in Guangzhou, the Guangzhou stranded for months, finally came to Hong Kong. Come to Hong Kong, she decided to call the father, she was about to take the children to Taiwan, it is their separation across the Taiwan Strait after the first contact.
Mother perseverance, never admit defeat and write her character sounds trivial but life movement. This blend of character, deeply in her blood, then every critical juncture, to make a variety of options, such perseverance will play a decisive role. It also encounters difficulties I will always be holding a firm belief to aim to stand. Because I firmly believe that my genes there is a substance derived from my mother, it is called "insisted."
In Taiwan, our life is not constraints, but because of the many children, not too rich. His father served in Taiwan's "Legislative Yuan Legislative Yuan", have a certain income, but not enough support groups of children. In order to supplement the family income, the mother from a family of women into professional women, specifically women in Taiwan, Ca Mau have been a physical education teacher for 11 years. Before I was born, even if the mother gave birth in 1953 after five sisters, and while still working while raising six children.
In 1961, the 43-year-old mother of unwanted pregnancies, and this set off in our big family of non-small waves. The family has six children, and were Sister Lee Kai-Yun, Brother Lee Kai-Ning, sister, Lee Kai-Rong, LI Kai-San Jie Lu, Sijie Li Kai-Ching, as well as five sisters Lee Kai-Min.
Be able to make this come to life? Whether a doctor or a family, have to persuade his mother to give up. A woman of this age, the birth process is not so much a physical suffering, as it is a spiritual purgatory. And the doctor's say so-old mother, gave birth to the probability of Chi Daier great.
However, assertiveness and risk-taking nature at this time in her mother's body has again manifested itself. Mother is only bite his lips, softly spoken words - I have to give birth.
December 3, 1961, a baby born,. That's just me.
Mother later told me that she was that there is a belief that I would be very smart and healthy kids, before I was born at all costs will be down. I now feel that, compared to other mothers to give them life, my mother nurtured my process are unknown and have more variables, the mother should have a bigger test of the body, this process was full of the miracle of life and the tenacity of the taste.
Note: This excerpt of the book itself, "the world because you are different," for some time, I will extract from my book, a little story to share with you.
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